One of the things I remember when I was in school is that I loved multiple choice questions. Having the answers, or potential answers, in front of me made it easier. So, why not do the same thing when we are looking for what we want in narrowing down what we want out of life.
Here, from a site called "GoodLife Zen", is a list of 71 things that her seminar participants listed. You might find some clarity in your own search from looking through the list. Use it as a launching off point, or to clarify your own thoughts.